|Sex is a part of a traveller’s
experience, even when you’re not having any. I’ll keep my ears open for
other people’s stories, but until then I figure I have one of six options
if I want to experience sex before I leave.
1. Casual sex with a foreigner
This is easy: put on a hot
dress, head to the tourist beach nightclubs in Baga or Anjuna and wait.
It’s like shooting fish in a barrel. The thing is, I was born in 1961 and
turned legal in the disco era – I’ve been there, done that and really,
there’s no adventure to it. It’s just tawdry.
2. Committed sex with a foreigner
This is trickier. He would
have to be a long-stay visitor like myself and be similarly interested
in a long-term, invested relationship. There would have to be enough chemistry
and compatibility to transcend our time in Goa. But I’m open to that. Richard
Branson, I await you.
3. Casual sex with a Goan
This is an issue of age as
well as culture. Indian men my age are married, have let themselves
go, and I don’t play with married men. A younger man is sweet, clean and
handsome but if his mother finds out, she’ll pull a few strings at the
immigration office and have me deported. Seriously.
4. Committed sex with a Goan
Since Indians my age are
married, my only choice would be someone older, like a widower. This would
be unworkable because I’m not into older men (I’ll have to get over that,
5. Casual sex with a Westernized
He’s in Goa either because
he’s visiting friends, family and his ancestral home (see 3), or he’s cruising
tourist beach nightclubs (see 1). No thanks!
6. Committed sex with a Westernized
Like (2), this is a good
scenario, but difficult and requiring patience and investment. He either
lives here after having built a life elsewhere; or he is a long-stay visitor
who splits his time between Goa and his adopted country. France?
Spain? Switzerland? Another good possibility.