Many women do not experience having a female orgasm until their mid-twenties, and sadly others will not in their lifetime. Besides being pleasurable, climaxing has been known to benefit women both physically and psychologically in a number of ways. Frequent orgasms in women have proven to alleviate certain kinds of stress and eases menstrual cramping. 

Listed below are the most common barriers that prevent women from having an orgasm:

Mental distraction - She may have her mind on other things and lose touch with what's going on in her body. She may concentrate too much on how long it is taking to climax. The woman may start to feel anxious if she thinks it is taking too long and loses her ability to have an orgasm.

Cultural Issues - Some cultural attitudes do not encourage women's sexual pleasure. Women may feel guilty and feel morally questionable during intimacy denying themselves of natural pleasure. 

Sexual Abuse - Women that have been sexually abused often have a great deal of difficulty in allowing themselves to trust their lover and relax enough to achieve female orgasm. This type of problem usually requires counselling. 

Body Image - For some women it is as simple as worry about how they look in front of their partner. Cellulite, protruding abdomen, weight issues and cleanliness are real issues women are aware of during intimate encounters that may cause them to tense up. 

The Importance of Sex - Or lack of it could have a significant impact not only on a woman's ability to achieve an orgam, but on the relationshp itself. 

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A female orgasm is defined as the peak of sexual arousal that can send a woman's whole body in a series of involuntary, pleasurable muscular contractions. A woman's heart rate and blood pressure increases while her breathing quickens as the release of endorphins into her blood stream can cause her to feel flushed, giddy, warm or sleepy. 

Endorphins are chemicals released during orgasm, into one's spinal fluid that produce calming, pleasurable feelings. They are also known to help control the body's response to stress, determining one's mood. 

Positions
Although there are many areas for sexual arousal, the clitoris is responsible for sexual climaxing. All orgasms are really extensions of sensation from this area. Penetration is not usually enough for a woman to have an orgasm. The clitoris is not always stimulated sufficiently in the conventional sexual positions, so couples need to utilize more creative positions to better help a woman obtain an orgasm. Lovemaking involves knowing what each partner needs to be satisfied. If there is no honesty by both partners the trust and intimate connection will usually begin to fade.

Fantasies
Some women achieve orgasm through sexual fantasies. While the stimulation is psychological the orgasm manifests itself physically. Letting go and allowing oneself to fantasize and really block out any distractions can help those who find it difficult to experience an orgasm.

Mood
Setting the mood is a great way for a woman to really relax and enjoy being pleasured. Candles and slow romantic music may sound like a cliché, but it can really create a more enticing atmosphere that can result in achieving the type of intimacy needed for many women.

A female orgasm is different with every woman. There is not a set of rules to follow when it comes to pleasing a woman. What feels good to one woman may not appeal to another. Sexual intimacy happens when the lovemaking is pleasing to both partners creating a harmony and closeness and a sense of trust between two people.
 

Multiple Orgasms

Women who have mastered the art of achieving one orgasm can now aim at achieving two!

The multiple orgasm is not a myth. Just as all women have the ability to experience one orgasm, they also have the ability to experience many.

There are two types of multiple orgasms:

1. Sequential Multiples

A series of climaxes that come close together (2-10 minutes apart) 
There is an interruption in arousal before the first and second orgasm 
Common scenario for this type is oral sex climax followed by climax in intercourse 
2. Serial Multiples

Orgasms come one after the other (separated by seconds without interruption in arousal) 
Occurs during intercourse when all the right spots are being stimulated (i.e. clitoris, G-Spot)
A woman’s ability to have multiple orgasms depends on many factors that she and her partner can work on together:

• Comfort Level: A woman will not orgasm once, let alone twice, if she is not comfortable with her partner and/or her surroundings. Creating a romantic atmosphere and kissing and cuddling can help. It is always important for a partner to address his wife’s or girlfriend’s needs before any hope of multiple orgasm can be realized.

• Energy Level: If a woman is too stressed or fatigued she will not invest the energy in achieving orgasm. She and her partner may try to lower stress levels by setting a romantic mood. For instance, bubble baths and massages are always good stress relievers.

• Sexual Technique: Certain positions are considered to be more helpful than others are when it comes to achieving one orgasm or multiple orgasms. Recommended techniques include the missionary position, woman on top positions, and rear-entry positions. A couple can experiment with these different positions to see which works best.

• Body Awareness: In order for any woman to achieve an orgasm she must be fully aware of her own body. While her partner can help her with foreplay and positioning, the woman alone is responsible for her orgasmic response. Masturbation is a good way of gaining bodily awareness. This technique allows a woman to become acquainted with her own body and to learn its particular responses to certain types of stimulation. Informing her partner of what she best responds to will help in achieving orgasm.

FAQ's I've been married for three years now and have never had an orgasm, is this normal? Many men and women do not realize that penetration alone does not usually cause a woman to climax. Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve female orgasm. I generally fake orgasms because I do not want my partner to think that he is a failure in the bedroom, however I am completely unsatisfied, what can I do? If you are uncomfortable talking about this problem with your partner, and you know what it would take to be happier sexually, be more assertive in bed, guide your lover through the lovemaking showing him how you need to be turned on. I am very self conscious about my body and feel tense in an intimate situation how can I loosen up enough to obtain an orgasm? The proper lighting can increase confidence and help you to relax. Candles can help to hide some of your flaws. My partner and I have tried lotions and sexual toys to help our sex life but they only remind me of the problem I am having, what other sexual aids are available that can help me to have an orgasm? There are sexual supplements in the form of pills that women can take in privacy that are designed to increase blood flow and heighten sensation by activating the body's natural hormone production. By raising the levels of progesterone they enhance sexual sensitivity which aids in female orgasm.

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