Sex education in schools
has always been a matter of fierce debate. Whether to have it or not as
part of the curriculum, whether to educate school-going children about
every aspect of carnal knowledge - all these questions have always raised
many eyebrows. This ever explosive issue has received mixed responses from
all sections of society. While many feel that sex education should be made
mandatory, others feel it should be an optional subject and there are still
many who feel it shouldn't be there at all.
If Sex education is a prevention
boundary, it should find a place in one of the above category. First, why
do we need this education? A simple answer is that we do it sometimes.
Second, how do we do sex (even with our spouse): in privacy or publicly?
Do we discuss it out openly with friends and expose our spouse to them?
If answers to these questions is ‘No’ and convincingly ‘No’, then the first
boundary lies with the adults itself – how can they talk sex with their
children or students, when we cannot practice it before them? We have to
understand a very important aspect here. If we dare to talk such things
with children, we are breaking away the boundary of respect and regard
straight away (they or we not able to talk sex with each other signifying
that there is some regard that produces this shyness or hesitation). We
are undoubtedly introducing a concept that would teach our children to
go beyond this boundary and easily practice sex, the barriers being broken
and broken by teachers and parents first. During childhood, sex is a curiosity
and hence is not known to them completely. All they know is that it is
considered wrong by elders and is practiced between parents. Curiosity
can take shape of temptation and temptations would lead to doing the wrong,
if children are not taught of values that can help them prevent the temptation.
Talking to them about sex would kill their curiosity and give birth to
educated temptation. Thus, sex education so seeming to be an experimented
cure, would necessarily lead to side effect of practicing sex as an educated
practitioner. Sex education would in fact as a catalyst in producing sexual
practices, and can in no way be a preventive measure. This education has
no relation with feelings like temptations. Temptations can be only held
by practice of cultural values, may be as a fear to breach the respectful
barrier. Preventive measures are healthier and positive aspects, and can
be talked and propagated positively towards everyone. Holding to values
and teaching our children to remain in boundaries is actually a preventive
measure and would protect majority of them from committing the hazard.
|The reason we boast sometimes
on Indian culture, is because it has rich values, values that are of high
morale and unique to the world. Values are something on which our life
thrives. We find organizations thriving on values, families stand united
on its values, and the very humanity stands on human values. Without values,
an individual would have no identity.
We deliver value when we
execute pride in holding our national symbols. We deliver value when we
show respect to our elders. We owe value when we look at each female with
the respect as high as that for a mother. And it is these values, that
brings in us courage to hold against the odds. It is these values that
help us to go ahead in life along with our family, with our friends, with
our colleagues, with the society and with the nation all together. No doubt,
values are as important as our life itself.
One of these great Indian
values is about educating our children to hold against the most devastating
erotic feelings towards opposite gender, the so called ‘Sex’. Sex is a
powerful temptation and it requires very strong values to hold upon it.
However, it is now days challenged by educated section of society, particularly
the followers of western culture, in the name of exposing the mystery to
the curious and immature child.
The conclusion made by these
literates is that it is a prevention methodology, which would make the
next generation safe from the perils of Sex. Universally, prevention is
better than cure, goes as a law, but the question remains – Is sex education
a prevention, cure or an experiment the result of which is either not known
or is deliberately being forced in the society? What if you have educated
a child in sex and he fails to hold his temptations thereafter? What would
you call that situation – the prevention failed or the medicine failed?
Let us try to understand prevention in a better way. If I am not mistaken,
prevention is a boundary, a boundary that tells you what lies on the other
side. At a broad level, there are three types of boundaries:
• First, we are completely
aware what lie on the other side of the boundary. For example, nearly every
one knows the after effect of smoking.
• Second, we are partially
or unaware of the negative factors and accept the boundaries as a part
of cultural values, with the awareness of the positive factors within the
boundary. For example, if we do exercise, we say it is a preventive measure
from bad health. The details of bad health may not be known in completeness
to the doer, but there is a straight conception that fits to his mind –
exercise is good for health.
• Third, we are completely
unaware of positive or negative factors on either side of the boundary.
For example, doing some rituals as a religious practice.
The proposed solution is
still experimentation – the world is yet to see a generation that would
be protected from practicing sex early during childhood and teenage after
getting educated on sex. The proposed solution of sex education is thus
very much risky and it can totally devastate the society if it fails to
deliver the purpose, provoking children to enter premature sexual relations.
The intuition and notion
of sex education as a solution started to create the awareness towards
the deadly disease ‘AIDS’. It is a disease born out of sex and can spread
out of various reasons which includes unsafe sex, blood transfusion, etc.
The first unseen and politicized mistake is acceptance by the society that
people need to be aware of this disease and should adapt to safe sex practices.
At this point it seemed unquestionably correct, as adults were to be educated
for usage of condoms. Unfortunately, this was the stepping stone towards
growing errors. The ground error is that it is accepted that adults cannot
hold from doing extra-marital and pre-marital affairs. And the true solution
negated is – people not educated on values and importance of holding on
values. It is here values plays its importance and Indian value in this
term is very much known to the society – no extra-marital affairs and no
pre-marital affairs – complete honesty with the partner and thus complete
dedication towards their home leading to a life that is happy and supported
by your relations and respected by outsiders – No possibility of AIDS in
But more ground fact is that
above values cannot be achieved unless it is inculcated in people when
they are still ripe, when they are as young as children. Childhood is a
state where you shape up your character. It takes huge effort for adults
to change their nature, but not for a child. Values inculcated in children
can help them grow to a brighter and healthier personality. This seems
to me so simple to execute, simple because it can very easily get passed
on to following generation as family values. In fact, it is still a part
of Indian culture, which by the weapon of sex education, being totally
devastated under the umbrella of the word ‘EDUCATION’. What is wrong in
asking our children to respect elders and consider every woman as respectable
as our own mother and sister? It is all about building this strong and
positive perception in our little gems. In fact, would we dare to call
our little angels as angels and gems, the moment we realize that he has
adopted to means like sex which is not suitable to his age, which his mind
would not absorb to the fullest of the concept, where there would be every
chance for him to slip towards experiencing it because now the education
is exposing the vulnerable erotic and ecstatic feelings which is yet in
abnormal form of curiosity in the child – would we still dare to call our
children as angels and gems. Will he not start challenging his patience
by thinking the same about his relations? Will he then enjoy respect and
regards towards any of the opposite gender? And I wonder why it is not
thought that once sex goes into the education stream of children, children
would by natural manner start talking about it among them. A child boy
will talk to a child girl about their sex knowledge – a boundary that protects
every child (at least most of them), from sexual pitfalls at early age
would be totally destroyed. Is this what our modern parent expects from
their children? As long as children do not talk about sex, they would fear
to break the boundary and majority of the generation can be saved. But
once, this is broken, majority of the generation would be devastated.
I sometimes ponder, why is
human so weak to not realize the problems of practices like sex education?
Why didn’t they look at societies which has already experimented this as
a solution? We can very well go into the western education system where
sex is a compulsory education and try to quantify and derive statistics
on whether it has actually helped children from doing sex. The facts would
be un-amazingly opposite to what is being proposed. They are exposed to
sex as an adoptable practice, they are aware of how to protect from sexual
disease, for instance by using condoms, and they simply enter into actually
doing it. Why don’t we realize a simple thing, children would experiment
everything if they are given the freedom? As responsible adults, we are
to guide children about wrong and right and not expose them to the wrongs
and the means to do the wrongs without getting harmed.
We need to help our children
to enhance their resistive power, their tolerance power, their patience,
their understanding to respect and regard the values taught by parents
and teachers. We cannot simply accept that our children would learn from
wrong source about habits that are tempting, if we do not allow them to
learn from us. We cannot make our children so weak that they go for anything
that fulfills their mental desires and curiosity. We need to develop in
them right from their childhood a habit to hold on temptations, so that
they get matured enough to handle toughest situations in life. Indian culture
have always taught children to grow up by practicing patience, yoga, respect
towards elders, and all positive aspects that can create a great individual.
Isn’t it necessary for our society to have stable families with respectable
||It would be surprising to
understand that foundations of such human weaknesses are laid down by modern
western thinkers, who adopt the theory and practice of allowing children
to do what they wish. These thinkers believe that children require information
about everything that they see and hear and if not provided they will get
it from wrong sources, and hence, as responsible parents and elders we
should share with them all problems like sex, deaths, hazards, etc. Truly
speaking, there is a very thin boundary between good and bad, between right
and wrong, so thin that once you cross, there is nearly no regret, no comeback.
People often start smoking or drinking, with an attitude to taste – how
it feels – and the boundary is broken. Next time, it is not the first time
and they do it with the intention that it would be the last time and the
Why can’t we straightaway
put into the minds of our children to keep away from these things by letting
them realize that it is bad – very bad? Some parents agree to this as the
impact of smoking is quite visible to them. How can it happen that all
other behaviors of life don’t have similar negative impacts? It is seriously
required to define the boundary of right and wrong in all that we do. For
instance, philosophers and psychiatrists are now provoking people to talk
sex with children.
They believe that they will
learn it from wrong sources and stealthily, which would create negative
behavior in them. How silly? Why can’t children be allowed to consider
it wrong as long as they are children? Why aren’t they allowed to learn
about such things as they grow in boundaries and learn to practice it only
in right manner at right time? Why are these great thinkers so eager to
take away the opportunity of self – development from these children, which
nature has provided them? Nature doesn’t allow children to do sex and hence
it is wrong for them as long as they are children. What is wrong in telling
them that it is wrong and bad when actually it is wrong at their stage?
They automatically will learn its importance and usage when they grow and
such children will respect sex and practice it religiously as a part of
Accepting that children would
learn sex from wrong sources, is actually an acceptance to the happenings
in the society around – cultural degradation in social environment remains
unchallenged and in fact attains maturity by allowing the upcoming generation
to get educated on it and practice it untimely. Children would grow physically
weak, and to much greater extent mentally weak if they endeavor to unfold
their temptations through sexual education. The next generation is being
challenged for their superiority of behavior and the induced sex education
would surely overthrow the master culture of respect and regard.
If Indian values and practices
that taught children of such high attitude are considered as Stone Age
by modern tutors, this would be unfortunate for the country. It is so simple
to understand that people of Stone Age were used to living in nudity, and
if we have grown rich in knowledge and understood the importance of clothes
in societies, we have to respect clothes. Clothes are the first indication
of boundaries against sex and children are to be protected from media which
breaks this boundary. Let us promise to help our upcoming generation to
become strong mentally, brace enough to fight these petty temptations and
grow powerful in their thinking so that they are capable of doing great
Sex as a study went deep to
unfold all its secrets for Ayurvedic practitioners. But for the common
people, it remained a respectable action. This is one major reason, why
we do not find any major disease related to sex known in Indian societies.
People often quote examples of ‘Khajuraho’ as a symbol of Hindu sex – which
is very wrong – why was such sensual images created in caves? Were such
caves a general practice of production? How many books of Hindus describe
Sex as openly as ‘Khajuraho’? The answers to these questions, clarifies,
that there must have been some purpose behind ‘Khajuraho’ which is lost
in the past.
||SEX IN HINDUISM
Swami Vivekanand said, “In
west, every woman other than mother is a wife. Among Hindus, every woman
other than wife is a mother.” I do not know other religion, than Hinduism,
which teaches values of so high regard. Such high values exist because
sex was never neglected in Indian philosophy – it was rather researched
to be a powerful source of energy in any individual. It was understood
that any energy has to be utilized in the boundary of natural law and hence,
sex was to be practiced by recognized partners, only for specific purpose
and within age boundaries. It was recognized that mastering sex required
immense control on the self and practicing it only with partners required
even greater control on self. Going beyond this to practice it only for
the purpose of reproduction, to meet the purpose of nature, was even tougher.
Thus, this natural power of every creature was considered as a natural
power and as usual, every natural power in Hindu philosophy holds a Deity
in its name. Thus, ‘Kamadeva’ (Deity of lust) came into being. Sex became
a concept of worship and anything worship-able was never misused.
Hinduism has never taught
utilizing any natural power in negative fashion – unlike modern science.
And sex is one such power that exists in Hinduism within natural human
It is often seen that one
bad belief by virtue of its natural capacity draws another bad belief.
If Sex education among children is an attempt to molest the future of nation,
the Long Leaders by virtue of their devastating attitude build one after
another similar attitude – producing Reservation into system that can eradicate
the unity of the nation and prove the critics that Casteism is a part of
not only Hinduism, but also of Hindu nation – in which case, the concept
of Secularism would be lost and immediately the Hindus would get attached